Fear Hack: Short-Circuit Fear With The 3 Second Rule

The three second rule. You may have heard of it (no, not that one). It’s an approach strategy conceived by pick up artists.

The rule is, if you see someone you’re attracted to, make your move within three seconds. Wait any longer and fearful thoughts will creep into your mind like a courage-stealing thief.

Once that happens, the probability of you making a move dwindles to practically zero.

Keep in mind that the three second rule isn’t exclusive to the dating realm. It applies to any situation where fear interferes with doing. The rule works because it prevents conscious thinking, the kind of thinking that manufactures fear and suffering.

Remove time, and you remove fear.

Nick Taylor
February 11, 2011 at 1:57 am

Yea – for some reason I tend to get myself into lots of situations where “individuals from the class do something in front of the class”. Drama classes mainly, but there are others.

Always be first.

I find if I leave it until other people have had a go, it becomes impossibly stressful. If you’re “in first” as a matter of principle, nervousness simply doesn’t get a foothold.